It's okay to be sad sometimes

"Happiness is a choice. So I often wonder: Is sadness a choice too? Who wants to be sad? Happiness is something that most of us long for. Happiness is the positive emotion and state of mind that most of us want to live in. Sadness seems dark and dismal and something to flee from. Sadness, however, is something that we all experience at one time or another. And maybe it’s okay to be sad sometimes.

I try to be happy as much as I can. I have a lot to be grateful for and I try not to lose sight of it. Even in life’s challenges, I was always taught to try to find the happiness in each struggle or pain or hurt. And I try to as much as I can. But I am a real person and I can’t always do that. Sadness is not my feeling or emotion of first-choice but l also think in many ways, sadness is an inevitable feeling.

I’ve never really been good at expressing sadness. I can express happiness and anger and frustration and passion. But sadness always seemed like weakness to me. It always seemed like something dark and dangerous that if I embodied too much, it wouldn’t leave. Still, I have been sad because sadness is a part of life. But I never quite knew what to do with it. Oftentimes I would try to keep busy and ignore it and let it pass. I wouldn’t want to think about it or feel it or get to know it. I just wanted it to pass and to choose happiness again.

But I’m starting to think sadness should be felt in the realest way. It obviously exists for a reason. It exists to show our humanity, our ability to be compassionate to others, and to ourselves. It shows that no matter how strong we are, we’re all ultimately human which means our strength is finite. Sadness is also a reminder of how much we need each other because most of the time our sadness comes from each other just as much as it comes from within. Sadness is a great teacher in many ways and maybe the most important lesson we learn is to be honest with ourselves about our feelings.

I hate talking about feelings. The only time I really do it is when I write – which is probably why I write a lot. Talking about feelings has just never been my thing and talking about sadness just makes me feel helpless. But as I write this, I realized that I was sad today. Sad about things that I feel like I want to change but can’t seem to find the courage to do so. Sad because I felt alone today and not in a good way. And maybe sad because I forgot to remember all the things that make me happy.

I don’t like being sad and I don’t like talking about being sad. But I’m learning that it’s okay to feel sad sometimes. I’m learning that sadness is simply a part of reality that must be embodied and endured. I’m still a happy person, well at least I hope I will be tomorrow. And I hope I’ll accept what I can change and what I cannot. And I’ll try not to forget to remember all the things that I’m grateful for; the things that make me happy. But in this moment, I’m sad. And in this moment, maybe that’s perfectly okay."

A piece which I can totally relate today, maybe it's monday and its blues, and maybe that's alright.

Silence your self-doubt

"You have to cut out the noise of self-doubt. 
The first person that you have to convince that you are capable of what you deserve, and what you want, is yourself. Too often we fall into the paralysis of thinking one failed attempt at something is evidence of inadequacy. Even worse, sometimes we cease to attempt things because we think we are not good enough. Replace that “I can’t” that you so often hear, with a voice that says “I will.” Work harder, work smarter, learn from your failures, learn from constructive criticism, and keep fighting for what you want.

You have to cut out the noise of regret. 
I don’t remember where I heard this from, but there is a saying that goes, “Regrets are a waste of time, things in the past crippling you in the present.” We have all said and done things that we are not proud of; things we are ashamed of, and wish we could take back. Unfortunately, life does not have time machines or rewind buttons. You have to take the bad you’ve done and try to do better with it. Don’t dwell in things you cannot change and the past is something you cannot change. Forgive yourself and forget your regrets, and choose to live in each moment.

You have to cut out the noise of negativity. 
In your quest to accomplish anything or in simply trying to be better, you will come across people who only have destructive contributions to your endeavors. Negativity is contagious and you become the people who you are around so take care not to let them in, in the first place. Remember this little gem of wisdom from Mark Twain – “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you too, can become great.”

You have to cut out the noise of worry. 
Worry is one of the worst states of mind there is – it is a fear of the unknown; a fear of something that has not come to pass. Oftentimes, our worries only exist in our imaginations; imaginations that run rampant with countless things that could go wrong. When we worry, we lose clarity and we lose faith; we lose our power to live in the present. Replace worry with action; with positive thoughts, and with hope that we will triumph over the challenges that we will face.

You have to cut out the noise of indifference. 
The noise that says that your life doesn’t matter, that doing something good or great is only reserved for a few people. Your life matters in and of itself; it matter simply because you exist. I’ve always believed the worst state of mind isn’t hate, it’s indifference. Indifference allows us to believe that we do not have to participate in the world in a way that makes an impact. But as long as we are here on this earth together, we have a responsibility to leave it a better place than we’ve found it.

There will be many noises while we pass through life. Noises that will want to break our spirits; noises that will try to tell us that we are not enough. There will be noises that are deceptive, and noises that will try to destroy us. Pay attention to what you see, what you hear, and who you choose to be with – these could all be noises. Take in what is good in this world but you have to leave out what insults your soul; you have to cut out the noise."

I guess these are the things I should really learn.

Momiji japanese buffet

Hi qt, finally gotta see you after almost two weeks :>

"Sorry I can't wait to tuck into all these now!"

"Let me teach you how to cut the snow crab shell and I'll only show you once."

"Tada, for you!"

It was quite a wasted trip down to adventure cove today because it rained and all rides got suspended not long after we reached so we decided to get a replacement ticket for another trip on a later date this month (hopefully my period doesn't haunt me then).

Since the boy was craving for some good food or sushi or sashimi, we decided to settle dinner at momiji for japanese buffet. Snow crabs was definitely the highlight of this buffet, for me at least, love it so much that I think I ate at least 8-10 of them while the boy enjoyed his wagyu beef and sashimi. On top of that, both of us love how they serve free flow of haagen daz ice-cream here as well! Dinner buffet on a weekend costs around $36.80++ but it's definitely worth it, for the wide variety of food, drinks and desserts (chocolate fondue, ice-cream, eclairs, etc). 

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